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Giving Communication the BIFF
When you have to face up to difficult discussions/emails/texts with your ex while this emotional ticker tape runs in the background, you need one easy, sound strategy.
That strategy is that you…give the BIFF. Give the BIFF to your Ex / your annoying colleague / your mother / anyone you need to have a challenging exchange with. BIFF is a technique created by Bill Eddy who has researched and written a lot about high conflict in family law cases. BIFF responses are Brief, Infor

Selina Trigg
May 195 min read


Being Online Savvy in Your Separation (Part 2)
moving through your family law dispute, separation or divorce includes having to contend with some practical issues around managing your online world. It also means navigating the emotional weight that can come with online interactions. Here are some of the common ones that come up for my clients. They may sound familiar!

Selina Trigg
May 54 min read


Being Online Savvy in your Separation
Increasingly, emails, text messages and social media posts need to be carefully considered when working through a separation. While your online social network can be a source of great information and support, it can also bite you if not managed well. So, in order to be smart as you move through your separation or divorce, what should you bear in mind when it comes to the online world?

Selina Trigg
Apr 305 min read


How Can We Have an Amicable Separation?
Worried whether it's possible to separate amicably? We show you how separation and divorce with respect and without conflict is possible!

Selina Trigg
Jan 75 min read


Holiday Sur-Thrival After a Separation
If the holiday season isn’t looking merry & bright for you because you’re recently separated, there's things you can do to turn that around!

Selina Trigg
Dec 11, 20245 min read


The Value of a Valuation
When faced with a relationship property division, how do you know when to get a real estate agent’s appraisal, or a registered valuation?

Selina Trigg
Dec 2, 20243 min read


Co-Parenting through the Holidays
The build-up to the holidays can be stressful. Sorting out the parenting arrangements for your children early can help reduce that stress.

Selina Trigg
Nov 3, 20245 min read


My Relationship was Short – will my Ex Get Half my House?
Most people know about the presumptions of “equal sharing” in relationship property law. Less people are aware of the exceptions.

Selina Trigg
Sep 25, 20244 min read


Ten Free Things You Can do to Help Resolve your Family Law Issue
Looking for a cost effective way to work through your family problem, look no further as here we have ten free things you can do to help you

Selina Trigg
Sep 11, 20243 min read


When Avoiding Legal Costs Ends Up Costing You in Your Separation
Bypassing legal advice can ultimately end up costing you more when you separate or divorce. Here’s why.

Selina Trigg
Jul 1, 20244 min read


My Marriage was Short - Can I get an Annulment?
Find out what legal requirements need to be met in order for the Family Court to declare a marriage void.

Selina Trigg
Jun 24, 20243 min read


Timing is Everything in Your Separation or Divorce!
The pace you sort out your financial & legal matters after a separation or divorce can have consequences you didn’t foresee.

Selina Trigg
Jun 17, 20245 min read


Being All Over the Paperwork in Your Separation!
When going through a separation or divorce, being organised with the paperwork can save you money. Here’s how to be all over this!

Selina Trigg
Jun 10, 20244 min read


Dividing Up Your Kiwisaver or Superannuation on Separation
Will my ex get half my Kiwisaver or superannuation? As this blog points out, not necessarily.

Selina Trigg
Jun 3, 20243 min read


6 Ways Collaborative Divorce is Different
How is using the Collaborative process in your separation or divorce different to other resolution processes on offer?

Selina Trigg
May 27, 20246 min read


The 1 Thing You Must Do to Ensure Your Contracting Out Agreement Works
Think of a Contracting Out Agreement as a way of insuring your property from relationship property claims in the event of a separation.

Selina Trigg
May 20, 20243 min read


Planning to Move with Your Children after Separation
Forget worrying about having enough packing boxes - relocation issues after separation can become a legal and emotional minefield!

Selina Trigg
May 13, 20246 min read


Keeping the Temperature Down in Disputes with your Ex
There are constructive ways your lawyer can help you dial down the conflict in your separation or divorce to reach agreement.

Selina Trigg
Apr 30, 20244 min read


The 9 Things You Are Most Likely to Miss in Your Property Division
Here are the 9 top items that get overlooked when an “uncoupling couple” are working through the division of their relationship property.

Selina Trigg
Apr 29, 20244 min read


Your First Appointment with a Family Lawyer? Read this First!
If you want to engage the services of a family lawyer, what can you do to make sure you get the most out of your first appointment?

Selina Trigg
Apr 28, 20243 min read
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